There’s a lot that goes into every relationship. There must be patience, sharing, strength, individualism, and most importantly, trust. Whether it’s an association you have with a coworker, friend, family member, loved one, or someone else in your life, relationships help keep us grounded when we need it and lift us up when we feel as if there’s nowhere to go. The relationships we choose have a powerful impact on our mental health and should be chosen carefully.
The people in our lives who we choose to associate with should provide positivity, empathy, and understanding, but that isn’t always the case. There will always be circumstances where misunderstandings, challenges, disagreements, and other dysfunctional elements arise.
When it comes to marriage in the United States, nearly 50% of all them end in divorce or separation and roughly 40% of all first marriages end in divorce. A bleak number that often doesn’t provide a lot of hope for people who are looking to take the next step. But rather than looking at the glass half full and thinking the odds are stacked against you, think about the positives that come from it and how you can strengthen what you already have.
Stop Focusing on the Negatives
Every relationship will have its ups and downs. We are all our own people and all have our own opinions and thoughts. Disagreements from time to time are normal, so stop looking at them as if the world is falling apart.
Don’t Just Hear, Listen
Just because you hear what the other person is saying doesn’t mean you’re listening to what’s being said. You can hear a siren in the background but you choose not to listen to it. Listen to your partner and understand them. Empathize with them. Be an active listener and you’ll find that both of you will be better off.
Keeping emotions, thoughts, feelings bottled up never does anyone any good. Be open in your relationship and share how you feel. If your partner does something you don’t like, let them know. This will help both of you work through problems rather than suppressing your feelings and talking about them with other people.
Nobody is Always Right
Unfortunately, neither of you can always be right. Too many people would rather go down with the ship than admit that they were wrong. There is a time and a place for a discussion, but when neither one of you can come to an agreement, one needs to accept the other’s point of view and move on. Getting hung up on who’s right and who’s wrong never does anybody any favors.