For too long, prominent figures have given advice stating that “a balanced life” is what you should strive for. Achieving a good “work-life” balance or simply just achieving balance in your day to day routine should be your goal. Well, unfortunately, that just isn’t attainable. It’s time for you to stop pursuing a balanced life and start making choices that align with your goals.
Achieving balance implies that in all elements of your life, there is the same amount of everything. This just isn’t possible. At times, your kids will consume the majority of your time and will be the main focal point of everything you do. Would it be accurate to say you have an imbalanced life because you focus so much of your time and energy on your kids? Rather than looking to achieve balance, we need to begin weighing things differently.
Having a weighted life implies that you have made a decision that is the best use of your time. Whether this is you focusing on your job, your dreams, your kids, a home renovation, the choices we make in our lives make us whole. Making a decision that affects one element of your life more than another does not make you an unbalanced person, you’re just weighted differently.
Everyone weighs elements of their life differently. As we grow older and our lives change, the weight we attribute to different elements changes. It’s important to recognize that balance makes us vanilla rather than being the whole sundae.
The self-help industry will never stop growing as people will always want to improve their life differently than someone else. The reason there are so many different types of coaches – life coach, mentor, business coach – is because they focus on the individuals’ weaknesses rather than their strengths. It’s easier to improve in areas that are weak rather than strengthening our strengths.